Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Going Out For Drinks

Last Saturday I went "out for drinks" with some friends from the gym. NO...I did not drink alcohol :)

I was a bit nervous. I really haven't been doing much socially.  I arrived first (I'm always early...character flaw?!?),and the next to arrive was a friend I've know for a few years. I told her my big secret was that I've given up alcohol. She was very supportive. 

I didn't make a big announcement to anyone else. The hardest part by far is when the waiter first asks what everyone is having to drink. I was surprised that the first person to order had club soda with lime!  I ordered water.  The 3 others ordered wine and beer.   When my friend ordered her beer, she turned to me and said "I hope that's ok".   I said "of course"! The last thing I want to do is make anyone uncomfortable or change what they're ordering. 

No one cared that I ordered one said a word!  Later, when the waiter came back to see about more drinks everyone said no thanks.  All I could think was how much I would have wanted more!

I had such a great time connecting with new friends and old. The biggest lesson here is that I CAN socialize without alcohol!  I CAN make conversation without loosening up with a drink first!  I can laugh and be silly and talk about serious things too!

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Day 180!

I'm here, I'm sober and today is day 180!  I'm not sure if anyone is still reading this as I've been neglecting my blog terribly.  In the beginning I felt like I had so much to say and lately I've just been going along with my life.  But I will say this...I'm glad I'm sober and as far as sobriety goes things are going well.

Days 100-180 have flown by.  I really don't think about alcohol much at this point.  Most people who are close to me know that I'm not drinking so that makes things easier.  Something that has been bugging me lately is wanting EVERYONE to know.  For example I have a lot of friends at the gym who I see just about everyday.  It just feels weird to slip it into casual conversation.  I've thought about a short and sweet Facebook post...something like "It's been 6 months with no alcohol". Thoughts?

Speaking of Facebook use lately is OUT OF CONTROL.  It's always been very high but I've been posting a ton and constantly checking it. It's like I need something to be addicted to!  I suppose it's better than alcohol but maybe I need some limits?!?

If you are reading this and still on this journey with me...thank you!  Even if I'm not posting I always think of my blogging friends.  I'd like to promise that I'll post more often...I'm going to try :)